I caught my daughter looking for money to take from siblings money boxes. She is nearly 13 and has been disruptive for some years. Schools have always blamed us for her behaviour. Even though her behaviour has cost me my job and confidence. Her siblings make mistakes. We talk about them and they don't do it again. I have been sent to parenting classes, mental health assesments because I got upset talking about her , had every aspect of MY life combed over. Just now I got a bill from school, even though she takes a healthy lunch to school she has been buying food there so double ate, plus I caught her off guard with a large helping from the fast food outlet.
Social care told us we are to blame for her stealing as we should just give her more money. I don't want to live with this girl anymore since she is destroying the family foundation.
SC has no psycolical training but an answer for everything. Social care in their blindness say she looks a healthy teenager, she is not quite 13 but a firm size 16 in her clothes.
My 9 year old daughter is stealing constantly. From me, from school on a daily basis pretty much. She even has a reputation in the neighborhood as a thief and some of the kid aren't allowed to play with her.
She lost her father 3 years ago and I have her in weekly counseling and she also sees a psychiatrist and is on meds for adhd. Yesterday morning she stole 5 different things from me. I have explained to her that eventually she will be getting serious consequences for this. I really feel like she is addicted to the rush.
I don't know what it is going to take for her to STOP. But people are going to be less forgiving because she is al. I'm fresh out of ideas of what to say or do. Everyone tells her the same things and she doesn't seem to listen. My daughter sometimes steals money and my wife her mother made sure that she did that. I read in her diaries that she did that on purpose to make us angry because she thinks I and my wife are treating our youngest daughter 8 years old differently. We tried to deal with the situation as quietly as possible.
Recently she did the same we think after a fight with her mother on how my daughter treats her sister. Her mother confronted her and she claimed that she did not do it and her mother might overlooked her purse. At the end of the day, my wife found out that she returned the money to the purse without saying anything. My Question is should we my wife and I pretend that she found the missing money, or should we not raise the issue any more.?
It can be so difficult to determine what you should do when your child is engaging in a behavior such as stealing from you. Part of the reason for this is that parenting can be intensely emotional at times, and this emotion can cloud our judgment.
One technique that can be helpful is to think about how you would respond if it were someone other than your son who took the money from your account. What would you do if it were a neighbor or a friend who did this?
The answer you arrive at should then apply to your son. I hope this is helpful. Take care. Even though you do not believe that she would. If she is making these statements in an. I recognize how difficult this must be for.
As pointed out in the article, it is. Something to keep in mind is that inappropriate. I encourage you to talk with your son during a calm time, and develop a.
In addition, you and other members of your. I recognize how difficult this must be for you, and I hope that you will. I asked her where she got it since my husband gave me one just like it many years ago. I have a 14 year old daughter who we have caught lying on several occasions about different things. Recently we caught her stealing money from us. Underwear was also appearing. I'm really not sure how to handle this. Many of the items are fancy under wear from the same store and are new.
I look forward to hearing from you. My ten year old son has been stealing money from me in the past year. Not just a couple of dollars either. I thought we had it under control. He took the money to school and gave it to a friend to buy candy bars. We had our son do some yard work for friends of ours to pay us back.
He had to do quite a bit of work over a period of a couple weeks. I also put a pad lock on my purse for a few months to make sure that he didn't do it again. We thought that he learned his lesson and I quit locking my purse up and he did fine for a long time. I don't know what else to do to get him to stop this problem. He also steals food from us, mostly candy. He is very sneaky and and searches for all of our hiding spots.
We are beside ourselves to get this under control. Here is a little background on him. He struggles a lot in school, is immature for his age ect. Everytime he does something and we give him a consequence we think he's learned. He stops for a while and then it happens again. I don't know what else to do, but know that we need to get a handle on it now before he gets older and it gets worse. Please help me know what to do. I wonder if he needs something that really scares him into never doing it again, like police involvement in some form.
Tami Hi, Tami- My daughter is 15 and has been doing the same thing for years. She denies it at first, and then ultimately admits it. I lose my cool and tell her that the choices she's making are putting her on a bad path, and beginning to define who she is. Apparently, according to the article above, I shouldn't be saying those things. I never thought I'd have these problems and my other two kids are equally mind-boggled and upset. I've tried guilting her and it seems to work in the short term but then she goes right back to her sneaky ways.
She also suffers severe ADD and impulse control. I don't know what to do! She already sees a therapist and is already on ADD meds, but obviously they're not working. Can you tell me if you've come up with any solutions? Just know you're not alone I'm so worried she's going to end up becoming a real criminal and getting arrested!
I had an incident yesterday where I think my cousins daughter stole some money from my son. I class her as my niece as we are all so close. My son is 6 and my niece is 9. They get on great and there have never been any problems.
Yesterday we all went out to the park but my son became very poorly and desperately wanted to go home as he felt so bad. This caused my niece to be a little annoyed as she wanted to stay at the park. We all went back to mine and my son and niece went to play in his bedroom. My cousin and I had a cup of tea whilst the children played and they played fine. No problems. They left after an hour or so. When my son and I woke this morning he said he would like to go into town and have a look around.
He still had 3 pounds left over from the tooth fairy last week so I thought he could put it towards something. When I went to his bedroom to get his money from the top of his bedside table there was only 1 pound coin left. I asked my son if he had moved the money and he said no. I do believe him as he has no reason to lie and he was quite upset when he realized the rest of his tooth fairy money was missing. My son is always giving my niece things like little toys and pencils. He is very kind and loves to share his things with her.
I asked if he had given her any of his money but he said no because he was saving it for a game. I know it's only 2 pound but that's not the point.
It's the fact it was his first tooth and he was over the moon the tooth fairy had finally visited and left him money. I cannot say she definitely took itbecause I did not watch her take it, but it was there before she came and this morning we realized it was gone and she was the only person who had been in his bedroom. I don't know wat to do. I don't want to tell my cousin as I almost feel embarrassed to say anything.
But should I tell her so she knows what's going on? I have a 12 year old son who stole money last summer from my husband his dad. We gave him consequences and made him return his remaining gift cards to the rightful owners. Much of what he spent the money on, as far as we know, was spent on snacks and food, and not anything more that could be returned. We called my 12 year old in to the room and asked him if he had anything to tell us. He immediately started crying after he admitted it and said he didn't know why he does that and he was very sorry.
We are pretty upset, especially after last summer, and worried about our son and his behavior. I honestly do not know how to proceed, as lying is a big problem with this child and it happens often. He also is at the forefront of most fights between his siblings. I would appreciate any advice you have to give.
My mom is mentally unwell. Since I started work my brother had responsibility of my mother's finances card. Anything my mother needs to be honest I pay for with my own money inc house bills etc.
So her card should be untouched really, except for when she needs something she doesnt want me to pay for. I just ordered a bank statement and it looks like he has taken money from her everyday for the past months. Around 6 - 7 thousand. I'm so angry because this previously happened with older siblings in my family. Who would rinse my mom. I couldnt do much back then because I was a lil kid.
That's the main reason I let THIS brother have the card when I startrd full time work so he can protect it, protect her. I did not expect this from him at all. But looks like he has been doing exactly the same thing the others did. I am so angry that he could take advantage of my mother's situation like this. I just want to kick him out of the house on her behalf because she doesn't deserve it. Even though my mother doesn't understand much I still had to tell her that all her money is gone because it is her money.
She seemed to understand a little as she looked sad and disappointed when I told her. But she went silent and as usuall is mentally incapable of dealing with these things. There are no older cousins or close friends of families that I can trust enough to help me confront ny brother about this. And I need to confront him because she can't.
I've never had to do such a thing as I am the youngest. So I need help. May seem silly but How can I start the conversation off and what questions can I ask without making him feel cornered. And what if he denies it. Should I or shouldn't I get the other older siblings involved considering they did exactly the same thing as him and probably would still if they had the chance.
Please be sure to write back and let us know. They were facebook games. I also found out he flunked 4 of his 5 subjects this semester when he was supposed to be graduating from college.
In the past he has lied about a lot of things like what time he gets home and where he goes. He denies he's into drugs but that could be a lie, too. I feel deeply saddened by the choices he makes and pray there is hope for him and he can still turn his life around.
I already set my boundaries with him and if he steals from me or his father and brothers then he's not welcome to live with us anymore. Is there hope for adult children like him?
Are there those who were able to change for the better and live productive lives? Best of. It may also be of benefit to find out if there are any community. I hope this helps to. My daughter is 8 and we have been staying with my boyfriend for the past 6 months. She a very caring, respectful, helpful and lovely young lady. He just thought he miss counted money. Now we where getting concerned. We thought another adult stole the money. We spoke with her and she said she was jealous my boyfriend's daughter had more money then her and she was holding it to show her and that she wasn't going to spend it.
I let her know how upset and disappointed we where in her and made her apologize to my boyfriend. Now my boyfriend says he is not mad and does not think any less of her. Teach your child impulse control to prevent stealing. Some teens steal as a way to rebel against authority. Underlying behavior disorders or mental health problems can also contribute to behavior problems like stealing. A child who is struggling with depression may use stealing as a way to cope. Here are some discipline strategies you can use to discourage stealing.
Have frequent conversations about honesty can go a long way to prevent lying and stealing. Provide your child with a less serious consequence when they tell the truth and give them plenty of praise when they are honest about misdeeds. You can help a young child understand ownership by making them responsible for their belongings.
For example, talk about the importance of treating toys gently. Create rules around respect that ensure everyone asks before borrowing items. Discuss the importance of taking good care of borrowed items and returning them to their owner. If you catch your child with stolen items, insist that they promptly return the stolen goods and apologize to the victim. You might help your child write an apology letter or accompany your child to the store to return the stolen items.
Taking away privileges can also be a logical consequence. An older child may have to do extra chores to earn the money they need to pay someone back for stolen goods. Work together to problem-solve strategies that will reduce the likelihood of further stealing incidents. You may need to remove temptations for a while. You may need to work on teaching your child better self-control skills before they are ready to have another play date. Consider keeping the consequence more in line with the misbehavior than the actual monetary amount of damages.
The main idea is to teach her to never do it again. You might take some of it as a financial loss, with an eye for the future. In this article, you will find: Page 1 Page 2. Point 2: Of course it's not acceptable. It's embarrassing, shocking, and angering. In this section, we'll talk about petty, occasional small-scale stealing. Kids steal for any number of reasons: Poor impulse control, as I mentioned above. Any parental intervention that is punitive and deals only with the behavior, and not the underlying problem, makes the situation worse.
Children can learn that they can save face and take care of the problem without losing the love and respect of their parents. Their financial needs are important and their parents can help them figure out ways to get what they want without stealing.
They realize that they are not bad; they have just made a mistake that can be corrected. Rebecca came to a counseling session extremely distraught. She suspected her daughter Julie was stealing makeup from her and money from her brother. When the school called and said that food items were missing from a fund-raiser, that was the final straw. Rebecca was ready to send her daughter to jail. In the past, Rebecca had handled incidents of stealing by confronting her daughter.
Julie had responded by insisting she was innocent, even when the money or items were in her room. Then Rebecca would get angry and call her a liar and ground her for a week. Rebecca decided to handle things differently this time. She told Julie the school called to say she was short on her food deliveries for the fund-raiser. Rebecca said she would be happy to advance Julie the money needed to make up the difference and take it out of her allowance each week until the bill was repaid.
Rebecca asked Julie if she could handle seventy-five cents or a dollar a week. Julie was caught completely off guard. She started to make excuses and her mother said, "Honey, let's just figure out how to replace the items.
Julie's mother continued, "Someone said they saw you sharing what they thought were the missing items with your friends.
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