This defeat, they believe, reflects shortcomings in their character or abilities. They failed, so they believe they are a failure. However, nothing could be further from the truth. And that is why I succeed. Jordan understands that failure is an essential component in the learning cycle. Failure is so valuable because it hurts. It forces you to take one of two paths: You can choose to give up and do something else less challenging, or you can choose to learn from the pain of your failure and try again using what you learned to secure future success.
Learning from your mistakes takes a certain amount of vulnerability and feels really uncomfortable at times. Taking responsibility for your mistakes and failures can feel uncomfortable. So, own up to what happened. If your failure impacted others, admit your mistake, apologize, and let them know it will never happen again. Once you take responsibility, you can move on to the next step. This is another tough pill to swallow. When you fail, you have to come to the uncomfortable realization that you are not good enough.
It stings, right? You are not good enough — yet. Yes, you failed this time. But you can do better. Your failure, whatever it is, provides you with some really important feedback if you have the courage to look for it. For example, you just bombed the interview for your dream job.
Where did you mess up? What do you need to learn or to practice so you can interview more effectively next time? What do you need to do differently? You have the power to learn from your mistakes and improve so you succeed in future interviews. But you will be. Next time you experience a failure, set time aside at the end of the day to write about what happened.
Fear of failure played a big part in me dropping out of uni two years into my English degree. Thankfully, I managed to overcome this fear but it took several years working in soul destroying jobs to do so. Although it feels destabilising at the time, failure jolts you out of your routine and makes you think more immediately.
People who experience failure and then overcome it, end up far more resilient and better equipped at dealing with future situations. You can choose to let setbacks defeat and define you or you can choose to learn the lessons and carry on stronger and wiser than before. I try and see so-called failures as valuable steps on the way to success. Failure is a great teacher in learning your own personal limitations, and figuring out how to do better next time.
School teaches you a very linear path to success. But in the real world, success is not always so predictable or straightforward. It felt like the end of the world. Meaning that they will get a hit 3 out of every 10 at bats.
It is part of the game. However, I want to step away from the sports references and just talk about why failure is not the end of the world, why embracing those moments can actually be your biggest promoter.
I have heard my parents say they want me to learn from the things they did wrong. Maybe you have heard this too, but it is probably not often that you were told its okay to make mistakes. You were probably not told that making your own mistakes will also help you grow.
The way in which you choose to respond to your own failure is more likely to inspire change than trying to response to events that you did not experience like those your parents always talk about.
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